Two people come together, from different
backgrounds, with different experiences, behaviours, perceptions
and expectations – they hope for a fairy tale ending.
The initial shine wears off, reality sets in and
the realisation that our partner is actually “human” hits
home.
Our patterns and core behaviours become more
obvious – and we start to see the differences between
us.
We disappoint each other, disagree and argue. We
stop hearing each other.
It can take a lot of work, love, understanding
and patience to keep a relationship healthy and thriving. We
can sometimes get to the point where we struggle to remember why we
even got together in the 1st place.
The couples’ counselling that I offer is designed
to help you both to:
Step back from any anger and
disappointment.
Understand why you each react in particular and
often different ways to the same situation.
Learn how to really hear what each other is
saying, not what you each think is being said.
Think about the best way to communicate so that
your partner will understand and be able to respond rather than
reacting.
Ultimately, I can help you find out if there is a
way to recapture the reasons you became a couple and to work
together to rebuild or strengthen your relationship.
Warning – these sessions are not
for either moaning about each other or tea and sympathy – you can
get that from your friends. This is for couples who are
brave, determined and want to try and work together to be
happy!